A study of 3,000 people by Andrew Francis and Hugo Mialon, professors in the department of economics at Emory University in Atlanta, found that a five-year age gap means that a relationship has an 18 per cent chance of ending in divorce (versus just 3 per cent with a one-year age difference), and that rate rises to 39 per cent for a 10-year age difference and 95 per cent for a 20-year age gap.
That doesn’t mean that widening your horizons to include much older or younger people is a bad idea; just be prepared to enjoy it while it lasts.
Actor Tilda Swinton has had two partners, one 20 years younger and the other 20 years older, and she says they are all great friends who visit each other’s homes regularly.
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“The success or failure of relationships and marriages comes down to a number of interacting factors, and age is just one of them,” says psychotherapist Brendan Madden, former director of Relationships Ireland.
“Age gaps work when the gap increases the likelihood of kindness and generosity, and work against the relationship when they don’t,” says. “An older partner may be more appealing if the younger partner can’t find these traits in their peer group.” That could explain why 57-year-old Stephen Fry recently married a man three decades younger, 27-year-old Elliott Spencer.
Now, let's get to it: A recent study by Emory University polled data compiled from 3000 married and recently divorced couples.
And then there’s 112-year-old Ahmed Mohamed, who married a woman 93 years younger in Somalia, which takes the wedding cake.
Older women/younger man romances are more difficult to find but they do exist.
The high-age-difference couple might find they miss out on this support, leading to an earlier demise of what could perhaps be something long-lasting.” When an age-gap couple has decided not to have children, “the rules and boundaries are different, and perhaps the age difference is one of the first to go,” adds Murphy.
She sounds a note of caution: “Where one person has age and money and the other has youth and ‘aliveness’, it can be a fair exchange or it can sometimes be an abuse of power if the younger person has no other income or means of support.